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Everyday we argue about needs not met on both parts. For the last few years things were getting better between us. The last 6 months he has more anger twords me and left last week. He told me he was not in love with me anymore. It never hit home until I heard those words. I really want to work through this, he is my soulmate.
I have begged and pleaded for him to come back which I know is bad. He will not make any kind of commitment to try and really work things out. He does not want to discuss our relationship at all. I want to spend the rest of my life with him and get over all of these obstacles learn to forgive and leave resentment behind. She is going through something…she wants to have another child she has had 4 , she wants to teach abroad I told her I support her, and she can teach in the summers , she wanted to explore her sexuality she is bi-sexual ; I told her that I would support her exploration, however, the children and I come first.
As long as she is able to give us reassurance and attention, go explore. My wife and I were friends long before we were married. I have moved out, and I am letting her contact me. Hi, i have been with my wife for 9 years, and last month she said she didnt want to be with me anymore. I think she is havibg an emotional affair.
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Emotions can change from day to day and your behavior is what is going to be the only the thing at this moment that will change it. Forget what you did in the past and concentrate to future. Teill her that you will have nothing to do with the further destruction of your family. Never give up! I am fighting the same fight my friend. Fight for your marriage but fight with kindness. My husband had affairs with 4 women—5 if you count the one time thing. I had an affair with this guy from work over 5 years ago; It lasted 14 months.
I did it during a time that my husband was recovering from a surgery from a injury that occurred from him aggressively working out so he could look good for these women. He even spent the night with one of them.
I admit I let stupid things get to me and stress me out so I would be consumed with this and not about my marriage. My husband did ask me to get help for a time. I thought I could handle things. I realize I was wrong and enrolled myself in therapy. That is when my husband asked me if I had an affair he was acting strange so started asking questions. He since has been talking to women off and on.
He tells me that he wants to divorce and wants me to move out. Other times he tells me he wants to make it work. I really am sorry for the affair. I love my husband very much and wish to save my marriage. I just want to save my marriage. Hi, my husband left me and my daughter 8 weeks ago. All he keeps saying is we will still be best friends but ultimately I know that will never work as I want more than that. Dear Nichola, Nice job! That was excellent self care—now trust yourself and wait.
Sit back, distract yourself, hang out with friends, talk to family members, work, read…do whatever you have to in order to not contact him. Let him sit in the silence and space. Allow the room for that to happen. If you keep chasing him you open the gate for him to take advantage of you and for you to feel like crap about yourself. Love yourself enough to be strong enough to let him go. Hi, my wife and I have been married for 4.
Since having our baby our relationship has taken a turn because life got busy and we stopped focusing on us. I would pass out on the couch at 10 and she said after a yr of asking me to stay up that she felt neglected and wanted a seperation. She is my best friend and was the only person I went to talk to about anything so even going a day without saying hi is a struggle.
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I did the same thing. I fear him getting used to being away and just moving on. She got use to me not being around and moved on for good…. We also had our first child July 9th of this year. We continued to live together but separately in a 2br 2ba apartment. We agreed to work on being friends and then decide if we want to move forward with the relationship.
I thought the baby would shake things up but he has helped us. Our lease is up on the apartment and he wants to live separately. I made a life altering decision 2 years ago and he still resents me for it. He said he loves me and still wants to be with me but right now he wants to work on himself.
I stayed at my parents for a week and began doing my own thing. He clearly needs to work things out alone. He wants space but wants to ultimately be with me. He wants to live separately but spends time flirting with me. Advice please, and thanks in advance! Could I have advice with my own situation please? He left around 12 weeks ago after we had an argument that I thought was little … But was obviously this was a final straw for him and his pent up feelings that I was selfishly unaware of. The past year he had been living in a different city as a result of work commitment and came back every weekend which were always lovely.
He has depression himself where I have tried to help him but I was so concerned with my own problems that I always brushed aside his. We talk on and off now … And he has spent time with me and our child quite a few times.
I really feel that I need to talk to him about my reflections on our past relationship … As I feel that it is something that needs to be done. He is an amazing man … I love him to pieces and have gone to the point of not needing him in my life but wanting him. Then detach from the outcome and keep doing your work. Stay the course and keep working on you. Hi Louise, I am going thru something similar. My husband of 18 years, together 20 left me 3 weeks ago. I have OCD and with working 12 hours days, taking care of my elderly father, elderly dogs, my OCD and anxiety can really make bitchy and snappy towards my husband.
Because I made him miserable. For years he says. I talked to him about the pressure I was under I had actually mentioned it several times but he had already shut me out. But anyway before I found out about this I felt I needed to tell him what I did wrong and how I knew I needed to get things under control.
All this resulted in was cruel comments from him that sent my insecurities over the top. No I completely freaked out and sent him hateful texts, called him repeatedly. But for some reason I am just now understanding that what he wants is to not feel the guilt, not rehash the problems. And that is my fault. My fault for not giving him time to miss me, to miss us.
I have been so worried that he would find someone else and thought if I could just convince him we could fix this. But he had someone else all along. I feel he sabotaged the marriage when he crossed that line. I begged him to be truthful about this the day he left as I knew finding out would kill me.